When set too high
They can be achieved. But too high for too long leads to stress and burnout.
When set too low
They can also be achieved. But too low for too long is de-motivating and can lead to atrophy.
This indicates the best expectations are challenging yet attainable.
The Invisible Barrier
It used to be thought a 4-minute mile could never be achieved.
Then came Roger Bannister. The world record is now 3:43!
An invisible barrier is keeping you from success. It isn’t even in your way, it’s just in your head!
Reward the positive.
The greatest teachers point out, share, or reward positive behaviors. They focus on them.
Think about your favorite school teacher. Why are they your favorite? Because they nagged and corrected your negative behavior all the time? Or because they helped you discover your positive strengths and abilities?